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'Help! I Have No Friends At All!'

Making new friends is a slower process than many of us realize. Be patient, tolerate this trying moment, and keep putting yourself out there.

Heather Havrilesky
Jan 20, 2026
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Nana (1901), Pablo Picasso

Hello Polly.

I have written you a lot of letters, and to be honest every time I wrote a letter it felt cathartic, and even if sometimes I felt disappointed I never got an answer. Every time I read your column, I find comfort, light, warmth, hope, and acceptance (have been doing it since 2015 when I found your column in The Awl)…

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