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‘My Ex-BFF is Struggling But I Can’t Help Her!’

Group chats are the devil’s playground.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 06, 2026
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Fraud in the Garden (1930), Yves Tanguy

Hi Polly,

I’m so grateful to have this corner of the internet where I can be honest with myself about my ugly feelings. This is probably the ugliest (feelings-wise) I’ve been in a long time.

Last year I had a falling out with the closest friend I’ve ever had due to some infidelity in her marriage she’d confided in me…

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